Being Happy Doesn't Mean You Can't Feel Sad
Though this sounds like a contradictory statement, please stay
with me for a minute. It's a all about focusing your emotions correctly,
giving your stressful emotions the time to correct you, and then
getting back to happy!
Understanding human emotions:
The human mind is a complex soup of different emotions and each and every one of them are perfectly normal and in fact necessary. Fear and anger are primordial emotions that helped us avoid being eaten in the old days, and help us survive the corporate jungle in modern times. Sadness and melancholy allow us to grief and sort through times of loss. It's impossible to go through without getting angry at your boss or feeling sad at the loss of a loved one. It gets even more complicated when emotions are confused and mixed, such as when we watch our child run off on his first day of kindergarten; while we are proud of our little ones growing up, we feel sadness knowing that a wonderful time in our life is starting to change. These complex mixtures of emotions are what make us human, and makes us interesting unique individuals.
The stressful emotions:
let's think about the more stressful emotions in our life:
Anger
sadness
fear
anxiety
jealousy
Each one of these emotions have an important role in our lives. When these feelings well up inside, let them come. Try if you can to realize that you are feeling this way. The simple act of recognizing your emotions can quickly help you to calm yourself. Let the emotion do its job to get yourself through a tough situation, to help you grieve for a loved one or get through a lonely day. Understand and know that these emotions are unavoidable. Life is a cycle and must recognize on your happiest day, that soon you will have a hard one, and that on your worst day, that it won't be long until things are going to be better.
Recognizing this cycle will help you understand that stressful emotions are just a tool to help you cope, and that positive emotions are the natural state of being. Being able to step out of yourself during the tough times and let the bad times flow through, you will spend much less time consumed by these emotions.
Your defining emotion:
Think of it as a theme for yourself. Over the course of a month or a year, how would someone who sees you on a regular basis describe you. Are you generally happy and fun loving, or do you mope around life projecting sadness and looking for a sympathetic ear? If there is a little voice inside you that says you are the latter, than you are not on the right path to living happy. Stressful emotions are powerful and they will take over if you let them. work hard to avoid letting sadness, anger, and jealousy control you. When you are in the grips of these emotions ask yourself:
Is the emotion warranted?
am I overreacting?
am I looking for sympathy?
Are my emotions taking over?
Remember that your emotion theme is happy and your attitude is positive. Your are a happy warrior and you cannot be conquered!
Understanding human emotions:
The human mind is a complex soup of different emotions and each and every one of them are perfectly normal and in fact necessary. Fear and anger are primordial emotions that helped us avoid being eaten in the old days, and help us survive the corporate jungle in modern times. Sadness and melancholy allow us to grief and sort through times of loss. It's impossible to go through without getting angry at your boss or feeling sad at the loss of a loved one. It gets even more complicated when emotions are confused and mixed, such as when we watch our child run off on his first day of kindergarten; while we are proud of our little ones growing up, we feel sadness knowing that a wonderful time in our life is starting to change. These complex mixtures of emotions are what make us human, and makes us interesting unique individuals.
The stressful emotions:
let's think about the more stressful emotions in our life:
Anger
sadness
fear
anxiety
jealousy
Each one of these emotions have an important role in our lives. When these feelings well up inside, let them come. Try if you can to realize that you are feeling this way. The simple act of recognizing your emotions can quickly help you to calm yourself. Let the emotion do its job to get yourself through a tough situation, to help you grieve for a loved one or get through a lonely day. Understand and know that these emotions are unavoidable. Life is a cycle and must recognize on your happiest day, that soon you will have a hard one, and that on your worst day, that it won't be long until things are going to be better.
Recognizing this cycle will help you understand that stressful emotions are just a tool to help you cope, and that positive emotions are the natural state of being. Being able to step out of yourself during the tough times and let the bad times flow through, you will spend much less time consumed by these emotions.
Your defining emotion:
Think of it as a theme for yourself. Over the course of a month or a year, how would someone who sees you on a regular basis describe you. Are you generally happy and fun loving, or do you mope around life projecting sadness and looking for a sympathetic ear? If there is a little voice inside you that says you are the latter, than you are not on the right path to living happy. Stressful emotions are powerful and they will take over if you let them. work hard to avoid letting sadness, anger, and jealousy control you. When you are in the grips of these emotions ask yourself:
Is the emotion warranted?
am I overreacting?
am I looking for sympathy?
Are my emotions taking over?
Remember that your emotion theme is happy and your attitude is positive. Your are a happy warrior and you cannot be conquered!
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